Dear Youth,
Anyone relate?
Sometimes we get so caught up in wanting to fit in and comparing ourselves with others that our unique spark can feel diluted. The idea of being ourself can seem daunting as we worry how our friends will react; we might say the wrong things or dress the wrong way.
I get it, from someone who went from being homeschooled to school, struggling to fit in could not be a more familiar concept. Not only did I have to get used to the responsibilities of my next step in education but to a new way of life. The best way I can describe it is, moving school for me was a little bit like moving country. Obviously not on the same scale but elements like adapting to a new culture, new traditions, a new way of making friends are the similar struggles both experiences have.
One thing I've learnt from my short experience of school is how much strength it you can draw from learning to vibe on your own. As Romans 12:2 says, "Don't not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect."
You're uniqueness makes you an incredible individual and even though it doesn't feel like it and the world is packed with millions of people there is still space for you to shine in your own unique way. Don't try and force people to like you or change yourself to make them like you, darling. You're not for everyone and that's ok. There will be many people who love you for who you are. (Besides, once you stop trying, step back and observe you'll notice some major reasons why God did not put you in friendships with certain people and you'll be grateful for his wisdom). So please don't doubt yourself.
Sincerely,
Your friend.
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